Citing 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, the McCleneghan says many christian churches  advise against sexual relations among single Christians which she says its wrong and not biblical.


Rev. Bromleigh McCleneghan, a married mother of three and associate pastor for ministry with families at Union Church of Hinsdale in Illinois, says single Christians can have sex as long as it’s “mutually pleasurable and affirming.”

In her book, entitled Good Christian Sex: Why Chastity Isn’t the Only Option — And Other Things the Bible Says About Sex, the pastor says “single Christians don’t need to abstain from sex to remain pure since being chaste is about moderation”. According to the pastor,  no one should be forced to abstain if they find themselves single by circumstance.

McCleneghan backs up her argument saying single Christians don’t need to abstain from sex to remain pure since being chaste is all about moderation.

“If we refrain from having sex that isn’t mutually pleasurable and affirming, that doesn’t respect the sacred worth of ourselves and our partners,” she explained.


“There are those who feel that they are called to seasons of celibacy, or even years of celibacy, and if answering that call is life-giving and purposeful, then they should take it up as a spiritual discipline. But no call can be forced on an unwilling person, especially not if they find themselves single only by virtue of circumstance,” she wrote.

“Plenty of women and men love sex, and need it — we need bodily pleasure, remember — and the abundant life for them will involve seeking out relationships of mutual pleasure. Chastity, or just sex, requires that whether we are married or unmarried, our sex lives restrain our egos, restrain our desire for physical pleasure when pursuing it would bring harm to self or other,” she added.

The pastor teachings are contrary to many Christian teachings which mainly urge single individuals to abstain until marriage and go against the Christian tradition that advises against extra-marital sex.

Sex outside marriage is viewed as a sin, that will lead anyone to hell.

McCleneghan, who began her ministry at Hinsdale in July 2015, is responsible for worship, pastoral care, ministry leadership, teaching at the church. Her special focus is on helping people with children at home better their ability and commitment to raising those children in the Christian faith, according to the Church.