10 Skills that are hard to learn but will surely pay off forever
Some skills are taught from school but most of the life skills are never, they are free. And although the best things in life may be free, but that doesn’t mean they won’t take time, sweat, and perseverance to acquire.
That’s especially the case when it comes to learning important life skills.
“You can be the most disciplined, brilliant, and even wealthy individual in the world, but if you don’t care for or empathize with other people, then you are basically nothing but a sociopath,” writes Kamia Taylor.
“Empathy — the ability to feel what others feel — is what makes good sales and service people truly great. Empathy as in team spirit . Empathy drives employees to push beyond their own apathy, to go bigger, because they feel something bigger than just a paycheck,” she writes.
Planning, Planning, planning! one of the hardest thing for most people.
Effective time management is one of the most highly valued skills by employers. While there is no one right way, it’s important to find a system that works for you and stick to it, Alina Grzegorzewska explains.
Asking for help
Knowing when you need help and then asking for it is surprisingly difficult to learn and do because no one wants to be perceived as weak or incompetent.
But a recent study from the Harvard Business School suggests doing so makes you look more, not less, capable. When you ask people for advice, you validate their intelligence or expertise, which makes you more likely to win them over.
Consistency is vital to maintaining any kind of success and performance.
People often stop working hard when they reach the top, and yet to maintain that top position, you have to work harder and be more consistent in your work.
Ultimately it doesn’t matter what others think of you, but what you think of yourself certainly does, and it takes time to build that level of confidence and ability to believe in yourself when nobody else does.
On the other side of positive self-talk is negative self-talk, which I believes can slowly chip away at your confidence.
Knowing when to shut up — and actually doing it
You can’t go around whining about every other thing that seems not-so-right to you in this world. Sometimes you just need to shut up.
There are many instances when keeping to yourself is the best course. Especially when we are angry, upset, agitated, or vexed. Because if we blurt out anything and everything that comes to our mind, we may later regret it.
Keeping your mouth shut when you’re agitated is one of the most valuable skills to learn, and of course, one of the most difficult.
Along with shutting up comes listening.
“Most of us in the workplace are so overwhelmed with things to do — instant messaging, phones ringing. I mean, our brain can only tolerate so much information before it snaps.
One tip for active listening is repeating back what you heard to the other person. “It makes things so much easier when everyone is on the same page.
Minding your business
It takes ages to learn and master this.
Sticking your nose into other people’s work isn’t helpful and wastes time and resources. “You have no right to put forth your two or four cents, even if you are the last righteous person standing.”
“The most important thing in life to me is relationships; and the most important thing about building and keeping good relationships is trust.”
One of the easiest ways to lose trust, is to gossip about people behind their back.
Mastering your thoughts and fears
To do what you want to do and accomplish what you want to accomplish, you need to consciously direct your thinking.
The challenge is that we are the product of our past experience and all of our thinking is the result of this. “However, note that the past does not equal the future.”
Speaking up in public can be so hard for many of us to do.